澳洲论文代写价格:克服压倒的四个步骤

绝望是离婚的预期后果。我说,因为没有例外,这是我每一个客户的工作。当我经历我自己的离婚时,这也是我必须学会如何克服的。我今天要与你分享的是我与客户分享的东西,因为我们挑选了他们压倒一切的东西。结果?他们总是感到平静和更多的控制他们的情况。你也会,如果你按照这4个步骤。

第1步:清楚地了解你感到不知所措。这个步骤是困难的并不罕见。我所工作的许多人对他们的发展有一个总体的看法,但具体可以采取一些挖掘。愿意挖!您在挖掘过程中发现的内容可能是思想,任务,信念,甚至更多的感受。

大多数人感到惊讶的是,只要弄清楚发生了什么,他们可以开始减轻一些压倒一切的压力。事实上,我的一位客户最近在会议结束时告诉我,只是明确地确定了所有有助于他压倒一切的感觉,他已经开始感到一种安慰。

步骤2:将这些东西放入3个桶中的一个。任何有助于你的压倒感的事情都可以被分为3类:

我是唯一可以做任何事情的人

对我来说有趣的是,人们会多么频繁地把把自己感到压倒一切的东西归入第一类。他们决定他们是唯一可以做任何事情的人。我的客户和我通常在通过第二步工作的时候通常会发现,他们是不正确地假设,他们是唯一一个可以做任何有助于他们压倒一切的事情的人。公平地说,这个假设是部分真实的;你需要决定如何处理每个项目。然而,大多数人做这个假设是因为它是他们一直做的,或者因为他们不舒服的要求帮助。事实是,即使你真的是唯一可以对任何特定项目做任何事情的人,几乎总是会找到能够帮助的人。

看看每个桶中的所有项目。理想情况下,每个类别中的列表将比您在步骤1中确定的列表更短。如果您有一个桶持有步骤1中的所有项目,请深呼吸并再次浏览您的项目。看看是否可以将任何物品移动到另一个料斗。

步骤3:优先排序。优先次序对于克服压倒一切至关重要。最高优先级的项目是您确定需要删除的项目。在“我可以丢弃”桶中的项目旁边放置#1。

下一步是你的“我可以委托它”的桶,并确定哪个项目将带给你最少的努力,并为您提供最大的救济。放置一个#2旁边的这个项目。确定下一个项目,这将为您带来最少的努力,并为您提供最大的救济。放置一个#3旁边的这个项目。在“我可以委托”桶中的所有项目继续此过程。

最后,转到你的“我是唯一可以做任何事情的人”桶。弄清楚哪些项目将为您带来最少的努力,并为您提供最大的成就感。在这个项目旁边放一个A.找出哪些剩下的项目将带给您最少的努力,并为您提供最大的成就感。在此项目旁边放置一个B。对于剩余的每个项目继续此过程。

步骤4:JDI这就是耐克精神的行动。现在是做这个的时候了

从所有的#1开始,并删除每一个有助于你压倒一切的事情。深吸一口气,注意到你现在感觉到的多了,你知道你不再需要担心任何一个。

接下来,请注意#2。做什么需要做的将这个项目委托给适当的人。完成这个代表团后,深呼吸一下,注意到你感觉更多的是控制权。

接下来,照顾A.记住这应该是最简单的事情,只有你可以照顾。继续,只是完成它!当你这样做的时候,我希望你至少花一点时间来汲取成就感和更轻松的感觉,因为在“我是唯一可以做任何事情的人”桶里,还有更少的东西。

你的功能性离婚作业:

第1步:清楚地了解你感到不知所措。确保并列出所有内容。如果在您开始其他步骤之后出现问题,请循环回到步骤1,并继续返回所有4个步骤。

步骤2:将这些东西放入3个桶中的一个。 3个桶是“我是唯一可以做任何事情的人”,“我可以委托”,“我可以放弃”。

步骤3:优先排序。记得t
4 Steps to Overcoming Overwhelm

Overwhelm is an expected consequence of divorce. I say that because WITHOUT EXCEPTION it’s something I work on with every single one of my clients. It’s also something I had to learn how to overcome when I went through my own divorce. What I’m going to share with you today is EXACTLY what I share with my clients as we pick through the pieces of what makes up their overwhelm. The result? They ALWAYS feel calmer and more in control of their situation. You will too, if you follow these 4 steps.

Step 1: Get really clear and specific about what you’re feeling overwhelmed by. It’s not unusual for this step to be difficult. Many of the people I work with have a general idea of what’s going on with them, but to be specific can take some digging. Be willing to dig! What you find during your excavation process might be thoughts, tasks, beliefs, or even more feelings.

What’s surprising to most people is that simply by getting clear about what’s going on they can start to alleviate some of their overwhelm. In fact, one of my clients recently told me at the end of our session that simply by specifically identifying all that was contributing to his sense of overwhelm, he was already beginning to feel a sense of relief.

Step 2: Put each of these things into one of 3 buckets. Anything that’s contributing to your sense of overwhelm can be placed into one of 3 categories:

-I am the only one who can do anything about it

What’s interesting to me is how often people will incorrectly categorize the things that are contributing to their sense of overwhelm into the first category. They decide that they are the only one who can do anything about it. What my clients and I usually find when we work through Step 2 together is they have been assuming incorrectly that they are the only one who can do anything about every single one of the things contributing to their overwhelm. To be fair, this assumption is partially true; you do need to decide what to do about each item. However, most people make this assumption because it’s either what they’ve always done or because they don’t feel comfortable asking for help. The truth is that even if you truly are the only one who can do anything about any particular item, you can almost always find someone who can help.

Look at all the items in each of the buckets. Ideally, the list in each category will be shorter than the list you identified in Step 1. If you’ve got one bucket holding all of the items from Step 1, take a deep breath and go through your items one more time. See if you can move any of the items to another bucket.

Step 3: Prioritize. Prioritizing is vital to overcoming overwhelm. The highest priority items are those you identified as needing to be dropped. Place a #1 next to the items in the “I can drop it” bucket.

Next look are your “I can delegate it” bucket and identify which item will take you the least amount of effort and provide you the most relief. Place a #2 next to this item. Identify the next item which will take you the least amount of effort and provide you the most relief. Place a #3 next to this item. Continue this process with all the items in your “I can delegate it” bucket.

Finally, move on to your “I am the only one who can do anything about it” bucket. Figure out which of these items will take you the least amount of effort and provide you the greatest sense of accomplishment. Place an A next to this item. Figure out which of the remaining items will take you the least amount of effort and provide you the greatest sense of accomplishment. Place a B next to this item. Continue this process for each of the items remaining.

Step 4: JDI This is where the Nike spirit comes into action. It’s time to Just Do It.

Start with all the #1’s and drop every single one of those things contributing to your overwhelm. Take a deep breath and notice how much easier you feel now that you know you no longer need to worry about any of them.

Next, take care of #2. Do what needs to be done to delegate this item to the appropriate person. When you’ve completed this delegation, take a deep breath and notice that you’re feeling more in control.

Next, take care of A. Remember this should be the easiest thing that only you can take care of. Go ahead and just get it done! When you do, I hope you’ll take at least a few moments to bask in a sense of accomplishment and increased ease because there are even fewer things in your “I am the only one who can do anything about it” bucket.

Your Functional Divorce Assignment:

Step 1: Get really clear and specific about what you’re feeling overwhelmed by. Be sure and list everything. If something comes up after you’ve started one of the other steps, loop back here to Step 1 and continue back through all 4 steps.

Step 2: Put each of these things into one of 3 buckets. The 3 buckets are “I am the only one who can do anything about it”, “I can delegate it” and “I can drop it”.

Step 3: Prioritize. Remember that everything in the “I can drop it” bucket gets a #1. The items in the “I can delegate it” and the “I am the only one who can do anything about it” buckets get prioritized by asking yourself, “Which of these items will be easiest to get done and provide me with the greatest sense of relief?”. Everything in the “I can delegate bucket get a number starting with #2. Everything in the “I am the only one who can do anything about it” bucket gets a letter starting with A.

Step 4: JDI. Start with all the #1’s and drop them. Let them all go. Then go back and forth between the numbers and letters to get things done. For example, if you have 3 items in your “I can delegate it” bucket and 5 items in your “I am the only one who can do anything about it” bucket, you’d tackle the items in this order: #2, A, #3, B, #4, C, D, E.

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